To the gunman who bloodied Parliament Hill yesterday: thank you for making a statement. Actually, you made several statements. But are they the ones you meant to make? Whenever someone famously and violently takes a life, I wonder what brought the perpetrator to think that killing another human is the best option. What did you intend to accomplish?…
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Things I’ve Learned About Being A Baby Loss Mama – Three Years Later
It’s October 15th: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. On July 9th, 2011, as you know, our Sebastian was stillborn at 35.5 weeks’ gestation. I have learned things, since then, about mothering an invisible child. Although I don’t presume to speak for other babylost parents here, some will relate. It gets easier. Functioning day-to-day, compartmentalizing to…
Killing the White Poppy
As always, humans are up in arms about stuff right now. The thing I’ve been reading about today is the white poppy. Traditionally, the red poppy is worn to remember and honour war veterans, both living and dead. In the past, I’ve worn a red poppy to indicate that I am thinking prayerfully of soldiers,…
Days of Saints and Souls
Dear Sebastian, I haven’t written to you as much as I’ve wanted to lately. I didn’t write to you at Thanksgiving, even though I always wish for you at family gatherings. I didn’t write to you on October 15th – Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day – since it was one of those weeks I…
Baby AB’s Fashion Blog – Issue #2: “Paris Daisy”
Today on Baby AB’s Fashion Blog, we feature an absolutely fabulous sweater, handmade by a lovely expert-knitter friend (who also happens to be Skye’s mom). This ensemble comes from November. I dressed Baby AB for her six-week photopost and propped her up so it would look sorta like she was sitting. She was just barely…
A (mostly) Depressing Post.
I should probably not be writing right now. In my present state, it’s like drinking and dialling: I might use inappropriate honesty. For the last many weeks (I haven’t been counting because that just makes it worse) Baby A, and therefore I, have been sleeping in increments no longer than 2 hours, and often 90…
Sebastian’s Tree
A year ago yesterday, on October 15th, International Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day, I wrote to Sebastian on Unspoken Grief. I was feeling very blue and needed to write with a bit more anonymity than usual. Looking back at what I wrote, I feel so fortunate to be where I am, one year later….
The Angel Tree
This week, we went to our local cemetery in Sebastian’s honour – for the first time. We were told by a friend (thank you, C) about something called the Angel Tree, in the children’s section of the Memorial Garden. Bereaved parents were invited to put an ornament on the tree in remembrance of a deceased…
11 a.m., 11/11/11
I took a gamble and brought my kindergarten class to the Remembrance Day assembly today, just after 11 a.m. We had talked about it beforehand, especially the minute of silence, and I think they were excited to take the challenge. I told them I’d spoken to the principal about it, and we both believed they…
Every gal has her limit
As I said in my last post, Sean and I were off on Friday because we had an appointment. It happened to be an appointment at an out-of-town hospital, to speak to a specialist about Sebastian’s autopsy. In the past three-and-a-half months, I have discovered that, fortunately for me, I am not very susceptible to…