Posted on August 17th, 2012
Dear Rainbow Baby,
You have been living inside me for almost 34 weeks, and I’m so thrilled you’re there. Your Daddy and brother and I love you very much, and you have already made us very happy, just by doing your thing: kicking and moving around, and growing.
In a few more days, you will be at the same point of your growth that your second brother Sebastian was at when he died. (I started to call him your big brother, but he will never be big. I’d call him your older brother, but he will only be older than you for those few more days.) I think about the two of you together a lot, because his only home was the place you are now. We love him very much, but we are extremely glad you have not been following his lead.
The pregnancy website I go to says that you are the size of a butternut squash (a 4.2-5.8-pound one).
I like this image: butternut squashes are smooth and beautiful, and seem a lot more babyish than, say, cauliflower (from week 25) or especially durian fruit from last week! (I hope no human babies look even remotely like this.)
I’m pretty sure you are already over 5 pounds, because at your last regular ultrasound you were 4 lb 11 oz. (That is already more than Sebastian weighed when he was born – 4 lb 8 oz.) Good for you, Baby.
Yesterday was a big day for our family. You were (as you often are) at the forefront of our minds, because first thing in the morning, Daddy and I went to the out-of-town hospital to have the cardiologist look at your heart. And Baby, you are doing so well – your little heart is formed just as it should be, functioning wonderfully. We got to see it on the screen, pumping away in all its complexity. It’s hard to believe that between the two of us and the powers that be, we are building all those amazing organs of yours that are doing their intricate jobs. At this stage, your kidneys are working, because you’re peeing a lot in there. Your eyes open and close. Your brain is growing and getting smarter. Your ears can hear me singing – and probably even recognize the songs. I will be sure to sing lots for you.
When we got back from the hospital, we found that your big brother E was not feeling well – he was feverish and his eye was hurting. He was not himself and he just sat and cuddled with me (and with you) for a long time. Eventually we took him to the doctor just to make sure nothing was seriously wrong – and he soon started to do better. (Thankfully, he doesn’t get sick very often, but when he does, I always worry more than I should. I know kids get sick all the time and it’s not serious, but sometimes unexpected and unreasonable things happen. If anything like that happened to him, I simply do not know what I would do. I know that when you arrive, I will feel the exact same way about you – in fact, I already do.)
Another special thing about yesterday was that it was your Grammie’s birthday! We celebrated, and you got to share delicious peach-ginger upside-down cake with me while we sat outside listening to the crickets. Your Grammie is a wonderful person – you are going to love her so much.
Grammie’s birthday is also a singular date in my mind because Sebastian was due to be born on August 16th, Grammie’s birthday, last year. Even though I will always think of him on that day, I’m glad it’s a day to celebrate someone else we love.
And now there’s a new reason for celebration on that date: my good friends Mr. A and his wife, who have been waiting to be parents for a very long time, welcomed their healthy baby girl into the world yesterday! I am so happy for them, and for their daughter, who has such a fantastic mother and father. I’m looking forward to meeting the baby; I hope you and she will get to be friends someday.
Here’s the thing, Baby. Even though there are still six weeks until your due date, and even though we know better than most families that you can’t take babies for granted, we are counting on you. We can’t help imagining you, your arrival, your relationship with your living brother. We have not stopped ourselves from getting very excited to meet you. E asks often, “When is the baby coming?” and he says he loves you and kisses my belly where you live.
There are so many people here in the world who love you already. In fact, there are even some who are not in the world: your great-grandma Sue will not get to hold you, but she knew you were getting ready inside me while she was still alive, and she was very happy to know you were there. (At her memorial last weekend, a good friend said she thought Gramma Sue’s spirit is just waiting for you to be born so she can dive down and be part of you. I know you are going to have your own extraordinary spirit and personality, but it’s nice to imagine you getting an extra dose of Gramma Sue’s optimistic moxie!)
So, sweet Rainbow Baby, you are doing such a good job already; I would love it if you could just continue, stay the course… and get here safely. You’re really going to like it here. I know you can do it.
And one more thing: if you have the chance, it would be really awesome if you could turn and put your head downward. That’s the best way for you to be born, and your Mama would very much appreciate it. I understand if you can’t… but give it a try, it’s probably way more comfortable.
We all love you, and we can hardly wait for you to get here!